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The Searchers

Do you celebrate special birthdays? I recently had a round number birthday, and for the first time in 20 years, I decided to have a proper party. You know the kind – invitations, food, music, and entertainment at a place other than home where I would do all the work.

One of the most wonderful parts of my birthday was reading the cards I received and the messages they conveyed. I received a card from a relative I don’t see very often who lives far away and is a member of my former husband’s family. Despite all that, we get on well.

She wrote a beautiful card outlining why she valued our friendship and I will treasure it always. It also included this wonderful quote and I sought her permission to share it with you.

It is from a book from James Kavanaugh called, “There are Men Too Gentle to Live Among Wolves”.

I included the quote here:

“Some people do not have to search, they find their niche early in life and rest there, seemingly contented and resigned. They do not seem to ask much of life, sometimes they do not seem to take it seriously. At times I envy them, but I usually do not understand them. Seldom do they understand me.

 I am one of the searchers. There are, I believe millions of us. We are not unhappy, but neither are we really content. We continue to explore life, hoping to uncover its ultimate secret. We continue to explore ourselves, hoping to understand.

We like to walk long the beach, we are drawn by the ocean, taken by its power, its unceasing motion, its mastery and unspeakable beauty. We like forests and mountains, deserts and hidden rivers, and the lonely cities as well.

Our sadness is as much a part of our lives as is our laughter. To share our sadness with one we love is perhaps as great a joy as we can know – unless it be to share our laughter.

 We searchers are ambitious only for life itself, for everything beautiful it can provide. Most of all we want to love and be loved. We want to live in a relationship that will not impede our wanderings, not prevent our search, not lock us in prison walls; that will take us for what little we have to give. We do not want to prove ourselves to another or to compete for love.

 We are wanderers, dreamers and lovers, we are lonely men and women who dare ask of life everything good and beautiful. We are too gentle to live among wolves.”

As I read this quote, I realised she had recognised me. It describes ME.

For me, it is essential to keep searching, not from a restless never satisfied kind of way, but from an always wanting to learn and better myself motivation.

Who are you? A searcher, or content with how you are right now? I suspect if you have read this far, you are a searcher. Be proud of your search, because life is an adventure to be explored and discovered. You can only grow from the experience.

Getting Back On Your Bike

Looking through some old files, I found this blog post that I wrote last year – but didn’t post.

However, the message is still relevant.

My 22-year old daughter is a student, and has just returned last year from overseas where she studied on exchange in Amsterdam. Those of you who know Amsterdam recognise that it is the capital of bicycles transport. She used a bike as her primary means of transport for several months.

On arrival, my daughter returned to using bicycle transport. Sadly, she got involved in an accident with a car a week after arriving. Fortunately, she only suffered minor injuries and was okay, but badly shaken.

Why tell this story?

After a week, my daughter made the decision to get back on her bike, because she doesn’t want to become scared of riding her bike. She is facing her fear and moving forward!

Do you have fears that keep you immobilised? Are there things that happened to you that keep you from being able to do all you want, in the ways you want?

Fear is an emotion that can rob you of choice, freedom and autonomy.


Often the fear is firmly entrenched in your mind, enlarged by the stories and meanings you attach to it, stemming from the past, and not always based in the current reality. Over time, it can grow in your mind, and move away from the thing that actually set up the fear in the first place. Yet, it can be very powerful, and can leave you feeling powerless and unable to move.

When you are stuck in fear, anxiety increases and this in turn compounds the feeling of being unable to move or take action.

What holds you back?
  • Fear of failure?
  • Fear of rejection?
  • Fear of not being good enough?
  • Fear of being judged?
  • Fear of being inadequate?
  • Fear of actually succeeding at what you want?

Marianne Williamson said in her book, A Return to Love (and was quoted by Nelson Mandela),

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."
Get on your bike! 

If you have a fear or belief that stops you from living the life you want, then the way forward is to face the fear, and overcome the things that immobilise you. Recognising that most often, the fear is a story you have created for yourself means that you can rewrite the message or story for yourself, and allow space and freedom to move forward.

Life is for living, not hiding behind the fear of what MIGHT happen. Most often, you can choose what happens, and by facing your fears, you can take small steps to gain confidence and rebuild your skills and abilities.

My daughter got back on her bike, and chose a bike path away from the cars. It was a good safe choice, which built her confidence. Your choice can be a small step towards the outcome you want. Make it so small, that you actually can’t NOT do it.

What can you do to face and liberate your fears and get back on your bike?

Do you ever find that a past negative experience can make you fearful of ever trying that same thing again? Maybe it’s time to get back on your bike.

Fight or Flight?

It’s funny isn’t it to think about what gets us moving to get things done?  I’m tired today but it feels like a ‘good’ tired.  And why?  Well, it comes from working hard to get something done by a deadline.  I was getting my house ready to be photographed to be advertised to sell.  We all live happily in our homes amongst clutter and normal family living – but when we sell, it seems the norm is we try to make our homes look like it has first made an appearance in Home Beautiful.  So my bevy of activity was about de-cluttering, extra cleaning, washing windows and finally shoving the last vestiges of untidiness into cupboards before my refuge is displayed to the world on a real estate website.


So now, the photos are done and we just need to pretend that we live like this all the time – or at least until someone is sufficiently besotted to want to make an amazing offer!


Was I stressed?  You bet I was!  But it felt like some manageable stress.  That is, it was short term, with a specific deadline and had clear and specific benefits to me.  I felt satisfied that I had done the best job I could.


I can’t help but contrast this with the type of stress some people experience in everyday life.  When we have constant stress – through work, family, relationships, financial or other ongoing issues – it can feel that we are on constant hyper-alert, or hyper-vigilance.  The disadvantage of this is that the body has to deal with the stress hormones released naturally by our bodies when we are feeling under threat.  This is the fight/flight mode – a hangover from our cave man days. Along came the wild animal to attack us – our body released adrenalin and we were ready to fight the threat or run away to keep safe.


Fast forward to 2014.  If we are constantly threatened by psychological threats, rather than physical, our body still releases the hormones.  We try to fight the threat – but we can’t always run away.  This can lead to physical illness, burnt out, compassion fatigue (a lack of empathy for others) and a myriad of other concerns.


The solution? I know you’ve heard it all before – but it is simple really – GOOD SELF CARE!


Acknowledge that life can be stressful and take active steps to limit, reduce or eliminate the things that cause you to feel threatened and want to fight or flee.  Be realistic – do you really need that thing or person if you feel constantly drained?  Is the benefit of that job, relationship or activity far outweighing the costs?  Does that habit of smoking or drinking too much, outweigh the health costs?  And if you can’t reduce the threat or stress – then be sure to have some pretty good strategies for self care to manage the impacts.


Would you like to know more and do a self evaluation of the impact of stress on your life?  It can affect you physically emotionally cognitively and behaviorally.


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Do You Do Endings Well?

May I wish you all the very best for Christmas and a happy New Year. Whilst Christmas is a happy time for many, I know that it is also a challenging time for some as our expectations are not always of a joyful time connecting with family or friends. Don’t be limited by the expectations of those around you or what the media would have you believe is the only way to do the festive season. Create your new traditions in a way that suits you, and prepare to end the year positively in order to start the New Year.

Isn’t it interesting that we link Merry Christmas and a happy New Year together? It is as if we automatically move from one event to another. However, before we can look forward to the happiness of a new beginning, it is really important to have a successful ending. For many, Christmas is about overindulgence and recovery, and then not doing much until New Year. I hear many people say that New Year’s Eve is over rated, and that they don’t enjoy it very much at all. They are glad when the festive season is over and they can return to some normality.

I think the clue to enjoying Christmas and New Year’s Eve is to think about Christmas in a different way, then successfully end the year before embarking on a new one.

If you believe the media Christmas, is all about happy times with family and friends. For those who are fortunate to enjoy this, please remember those around you who do not share that happy fortune.  If you don’t have those people surrounding you in an environment that is happy, caring and supportive, then this time of the year can lead to stress.

I encourage people who are alone or who find spending time with family potentially difficult, to view the occasion in a new light. There are no rules about how you should spend Christmas. After all, the way it is portrayed in 2013 is dramatically different to the scene of an unmarried man and his fiancee giving birth to a baby in makeshift accommodation in a stable at the back of an overbooked inn. I suspect there was no tinsel wrapped around the rafters, and you will recall that the Kings arrive some time later with gifts that were most certainly not iPods, Nintendo’s or a Wii.

Reflect on the time and whether or not you have any religious or spiritual belief, try to identify what the significance of the season is for you and create a new tradition that will reflect the meaning and purpose you attribute to the time of year.

I hear families having picnics in unusual places, working as volunteers to assist others, or generally doing things entirely differently so as to avoid the disappointment of not having what others would have us believe is the only way to do Christmas.

Then I encourage you to spend some time reflecting on the year. As 2013 draws to a close it is useful to discover what was successful about it and what didn’t work so well and could be improved. This is what really helps to anticipate 2014 and move through New Year’s Eve, to start a really successful 2014.
I have discovered a fabulous tool to assist you to do this, so click here to find out more.

I hope when I contact you again in early 2014 you are already engaged in planning your successful New Year.

Welcome to 2013!

Welcome to 2013!

I hope you had a great break over the Christmas/New Year.  I spent some time by the water – both river and the sea, which refreshes and restores me. In northern Victoria we have endured extremely hot temperatures of up to 44 degrees and whilst I love summer, this is just a little too much!

Here is a photo of the wonderful waterfall we enjoyed on a 42 degree day.

We are now into planning 2013 and I have lots of great things in store For  you. But I would like your   feedback. I will list the Workshops and
retreats I have planned and if you are interested in attending,
please let me know.     We will go ahead with the most popular ideas first.

Insights from 2012

I spent some time reflecting on 2012, and inspired by Inner  Feng Shui coach Vicky White, I re-read my journal and  wrote down a list of the things I learnt from my journal.

You may find some of these things interesting, amusing or inspiring:

  1. I am the creator of my own reality
  2. Exercise is a necessity and energises me
  3. Physical decluttering of my environment helps clear my mind.
  4. Buying a Tattslotto ticket gives me permission to do some dreaming
  5. Gratitude is essential and centres me
  6. I work better when I have some accountability to someone else
  7. I need to consciously  take regular actions to connect to my spirit
  8. Time for reflection or prayer is vital
  9. Being positive makes my day
  10. I love solitude as well as company
  11. I need to feel passion and direction in my life
  12. I value a partnership
  13. My health is very important to me
  14. Success is the result of small changes being repeated every day
  15. I love the sea and find it uplifting for my spirit
  16. I love to reach for the stars…  but they can be hidden in my soul
  17. To grow – I need to understand…..
    Where I am planted
    What brings light into my life?
    What refreshes me?
    What nourishes me?
    What I need to leave behind
    What is helpful or unhelpful in my life?
    What are the fruits of my efforts?
  18. I don’t need to see the whole path ahead – just what is immediately in front to go forward
  19. Happiness is a state of mind, which I can support by helpful habits

And finally….. 20.  When I feel stuck or caged in, it is because of my own limiting beliefs or actions. The possibilities are endless!

Let me know on my Facebook Page here or, by email what insights you may have had into your last year.

What is planned for 2013?

I have wonderful things planned for 2013.

Fire up for 2013

This 3 hour workshop helps you identify your aspiration and intentions for 2013 and gives you concrete plans to achieve them. Don’ t be the victim of more failed New Year intentions…. – move into 2013 with skills to achieve what you want.

Passion Test Workshops
I can schedule these in Shepparton, Melbourne, Geelong or Torquay. However, if you are in another are and would like to bring a Passion Test Workshop to your area, contact me. By getting a few friends and colleagues together, we may be able to deliver one right to your doorstep!

The Passion Test will help you identify your top five passions in live and unlock the secrets on how to live them to the full with ease and abundance!

Torquay Weekend Retreat

I hope to run a retreat in Torquay for a weekend in February or March. We will look at identifying your plans for a Passionate 2013, complete the Passion Test, uncover your strengths and talents, learn about balance and fulfilment and utilise stress management techniques.

In addition there will be time to enjoy walking or swimming on the beach, visiting coffee shops and the fabulous coastal town atmosphere

“Thriving not Surviving” Workshop

This workshop will focus on moving on from past trauma, losses and grief. This could include experiences such as separation, divorce, abuse, sexual assault, redundancy or death of a loved one.
We will learn ways to let go of  past hurts, plan and live a brighter future, which is filled with joy and abundance of the good things you hope for your life.
So if some or all of these things interest you, let me know by emailing me here
Or posting on my Facebook Reach Your Potential

10 Tips for Creating a Passionate 2013

  1. Be open to New ideas and ways of doing things
  2. Let go of old ways that no longer serve you well
  3. Acknowledge what has gone well and be thankful
  4. Look for opportunities to expand your horizons
  5. Discover what you love to do most – take The Passion Test
  6. Recognise your strengths and talents
  7. Look for inspiration from others
  8. Put it all together…
  9. By developing a Passionate Life Master Plan
  10. Live it and Love It!!!

Finally My Gift to You

You may remember my Relaxation CD – “Relaxation for Body Mind and Spirit”
I have some copies of these which I wish to share. Like medication sitting on the mantelpiece and not taken, these CDs don’t work sitting in a cupboard. I would love to share them with you at the bargain price of $2! The CDs have some small crazing on the cover of the CD but they work just fine! This special price is just for the next 10 days, so snap yours up now, by clicking here .  (Unfortunately this offer is only open to Australian residents)


Passion, Purpose and Pizzazz

So you really want to be living a more positive, fulfilling and meaningful life, the reality in front of you right now don’t seem to fulfil that. Maybe you feel held back by past baggage, current stressors in your life, a lack of motivation or feeling unsupported.

Living a life that is not positive, exciting, fulfilling or meaningful is a life half lived! Is this  really the life you want for yourself? I doubt it……

So, if you want more in your life, and want the solutions and strategies to make change which is lasting and sustainable, then here is the answer:

Enrol in my Passion, Purpose and Pizzazz Course, to show you how to live the life you really want, one full of passion and purpose and pizzazz.

How will we do this?

This course will provide you with all the resources you need.

We will address:

  • How to know what you want in your life, or what you don’t want. Not everybody knows how they want their new positive life to look like. We will address that, and create a clear exhilarating blueprint.
  • Knowing what to leave behind in order to lead the life you want. You will be shown a range of techniques to leave behind the things that hold you back, like stress, anxiety, depression, physical dis-organisation, negative attitudes, or faulty thinking.
  • How to create space for change. In order to make change in your life you need to create room for the new. We will give you opportunities to create time, physical space and emotional peace to be in the right place to create a new positive life. You will learn how to overcome procrastination. We will show you techniques for meditation and relaxation.
  • You will learn how to rewrite the script of your life. In order to create the happy ending in a movie, the script has to be written in a way that creates happy outcomes. To create the positive life you want you will learn how to rewrite the script of your own life, through techniques like positive psychology, CBT and understanding of the law of attraction.
  • You will be supported and encouraged to embrace purpose and passion. We will show you how to really engage with feeling passionate about what you want in your life and how to live it! By the end of the course, you will be excited and empowered to put your new life into practice.

This course is fantastic value. We will include:

  • Four Teleseminars, with each session addressing a unique component and providing you with practical strategies to implement in your life –  Valued at $100
  • Weekly notes and a training manual for the Teleseminars  –   Valued at $49
  • A private group on Facebook to offer each other support. As your facilitator I will engage in this group with you  –  Value Priceless
  • A free copy of my relaxation CD, or an MP3 download, to assist you to relax and be at your optimum to create change in life  –  Valued at $10
  • Free Ticket to Attend a Passion Test Workshop run my me, Andrea Fisher  –  Valued at $57
  • Two new free E books, relating to the topics we cover in Teleseminars   –  Valued at  $35
  • Encouraging and motivational messages sent to you three times a week so that you do not lose motivation or momentum  – Value   Priceless!

This is all fantastic value, at a minimum of $241.

However, I am giving you this package at just $97!

I REALLY want you to gain from these benefits I can offer, so to encourage you to enrol in the next few days, I am offering even more bonuses to people who enrol by Sunday 6th May!

You will receive in addition to all of the things described above,

  • Another follow-up Teleseminar to check on your progress and offer personal coaching   –  Valued at $25
  • two more free E books relating to the subjects covered  –  Valued at $40
  • A 10% discount on my two-day retreat to be held at Torquay, Victoria later this year. This is valued at the least $35
  • And the best bonus of all  ….   a discount in the total price.

Enrol by Sunday 6th May and you will pay only $67!

Enrol Here

Bali Retreat – More Specific Details

Are you tempted to attend the Relinquish Restore and Renew Retreat in Bali but want more specific details to help you decide?

Our F.R.E.E. Teleseminar recording  is designed to provide answers to those questions you  may have and to help you understand how this retreat may be able to help you.

Please email for more  information to access this Teleseminar