It’s funny isn’t it to think about what gets us moving to get things done? I’m tired today but it feels like a ‘good’ tired. And why? Well, it comes from working hard to get something done by a deadline. I was getting my house ready to be photographed to be advertised to sell. We all live happily in our homes amongst clutter and normal family living – but when we sell, it seems the norm is we try to make our homes look like it has first made an appearance in Home Beautiful. So my bevy of activity was about de-cluttering, extra cleaning, washing windows and finally shoving the last vestiges of untidiness into cupboards before my refuge is displayed to the world on a real estate website.
So now, the photos are done and we just need to pretend that we live like this all the time – or at least until someone is sufficiently besotted to want to make an amazing offer!
Was I stressed? You bet I was! But it felt like some manageable stress. That is, it was short term, with a specific deadline and had clear and specific benefits to me. I felt satisfied that I had done the best job I could.
I can’t help but contrast this with the type of stress some people experience in everyday life. When we have constant stress – through work, family, relationships, financial or other ongoing issues – it can feel that we are on constant hyper-alert, or hyper-vigilance. The disadvantage of this is that the body has to deal with the stress hormones released naturally by our bodies when we are feeling under threat. This is the fight/flight mode – a hangover from our cave man days. Along came the wild animal to attack us – our body released adrenalin and we were ready to fight the threat or run away to keep safe.
Fast forward to 2014. If we are constantly threatened by psychological threats, rather than physical, our body still releases the hormones. We try to fight the threat – but we can’t always run away. This can lead to physical illness, burnt out, compassion fatigue (a lack of empathy for others) and a myriad of other concerns.
The solution? I know you’ve heard it all before – but it is simple really – GOOD SELF CARE!
Acknowledge that life can be stressful and take active steps to limit, reduce or eliminate the things that cause you to feel threatened and want to fight or flee. Be realistic – do you really need that thing or person if you feel constantly drained? Is the benefit of that job, relationship or activity far outweighing the costs? Does that habit of smoking or drinking too much, outweigh the health costs? And if you can’t reduce the threat or stress – then be sure to have some pretty good strategies for self care to manage the impacts.
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May I wish you all the very best for Christmas and a happy New Year. Whilst Christmas is a happy time for many, I know that it is also a challenging time for some as our expectations are not always of a joyful time connecting with family or friends. Don’t be limited by the expectations of those around you or what the media would have you believe is the only way to do the festive season. Create your new traditions in a way that suits you, and prepare to end the year positively in order to start the New Year.
Isn’t it interesting that we link Merry Christmas and a happy New Year together? It is as if we automatically move from one event to another. However, before we can look forward to the happiness of a new beginning, it is really important to have a successful ending. For many, Christmas is about overindulgence and recovery, and then not doing much until New Year. I hear many people say that New Year’s Eve is over rated, and that they don’t enjoy it very much at all. They are glad when the festive season is over and they can return to some normality.
I think the clue to enjoying Christmas and New Year’s Eve is to think about Christmas in a different way, then successfully end the year before embarking on a new one.
If you believe the media Christmas, is all about happy times with family and friends. For those who are fortunate to enjoy this, please remember those around you who do not share that happy fortune. If you don’t have those people surrounding you in an environment that is happy, caring and supportive, then this time of the year can lead to stress.
I encourage people who are alone or who find spending time with family potentially difficult, to view the occasion in a new light. There are no rules about how you should spend Christmas. After all, the way it is portrayed in 2013 is dramatically different to the scene of an unmarried man and his fiancee giving birth to a baby in makeshift accommodation in a stable at the back of an overbooked inn. I suspect there was no tinsel wrapped around the rafters, and you will recall that the Kings arrive some time later with gifts that were most certainly not iPods, Nintendo’s or a Wii.
Reflect on the time and whether or not you have any religious or spiritual belief, try to identify what the significance of the season is for you and create a new tradition that will reflect the meaning and purpose you attribute to the time of year.
I hear families having picnics in unusual places, working as volunteers to assist others, or generally doing things entirely differently so as to avoid the disappointment of not having what others would have us believe is the only way to do Christmas.
Then I encourage you to spend some time reflecting on the year. As 2013 draws to a close it is useful to discover what was successful about it and what didn’t work so well and could be improved. This is what really helps to anticipate 2014 and move through New Year’s Eve, to start a really successful 2014.
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I hope when I contact you again in early 2014 you are already engaged in planning your successful New Year.
I hope you had a great break over the Christmas/New Year. I spent some time by the water – both river and the sea, which refreshes and restores me. In northern Victoria we have endured extremely hot temperatures of up to 44 degrees and whilst I love summer, this is just a little too much!
Here is a photo of the wonderful waterfall we enjoyed on a 42 degree day.
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I spent some time reflecting on 2012, and inspired by Inner Feng Shui coach Vicky White, I re-read my journal and wrote down a list of the things I learnt from my journal.
You may find some of these things interesting, amusing or inspiring:
And finally….. 20. When I feel stuck or caged in, it is because of my own limiting beliefs or actions. The possibilities are endless!
What is planned for 2013?
I have wonderful things planned for 2013.
Fire up for 2013
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Passion Test Workshops
I can schedule these in Shepparton, Melbourne, Geelong or Torquay. However, if you are in another are and would like to bring a Passion Test Workshop to your area, contact me. By getting a few friends and colleagues together, we may be able to deliver one right to your doorstep!
The Passion Test will help you identify your top five passions in live and unlock the secrets on how to live them to the full with ease and abundance!
Torquay Weekend Retreat
I hope to run a retreat in Torquay for a weekend in February or March. We will look at identifying your plans for a Passionate 2013, complete the Passion Test, uncover your strengths and talents, learn about balance and fulfilment and utilise stress management techniques.
In addition there will be time to enjoy walking or swimming on the beach, visiting coffee shops and the fabulous coastal town atmosphere
“Thriving not Surviving” Workshop
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What is your reaction when things don’t go according to plan? Are you able to roll with the punches, or does your anxiety keep you from enjoying your life to the full and reaching your potential? To a significant extent, our personality determines how well we deal with the stress in our lives, but there are many things you can do to help keep your stress under control. Here are 5 clues:
1. Get plenty of sleep. It’s quite common in our society to exist on less than 6 hours of sleep a night. But experts keep telling us we need at least 8 hours – not just to rest our bodies, but to rejuvenate our minds. “Tired” and “cranky” seem to go hand in hand. Don’t use your bedroom to watch the news or finish up some work from the office. Make that room your haven, a place to relax and escape the day. Have a hot cup of tea, take a warm bath, or read a paperback to help you unwind.
2. Find your higher power. Saying a short prayer or meditating in times of stress can give you a sense of calm, especially when the situation is one you really have no control over. Studies have shown that people who trust in a higher power have lower blood pressure. Being able to forgive people also can affect your blood pressure. Holding a grudge is not good for your health!
3. Turn off the electronic devices. The convenience that mobile or cell phones have added to our lives can actually be a double-edged sword. We depend on them so much it seems we can’t live without them. This increased accessibility means not only can our loved ones reach us at any time, but so can work. If your boss legitimately needs to have your phone number, make sure you set clear limits on when you can and cannot be reached. Your time off is yours.
4. Take a holiday or a break. It doesn’t have to be a fancy resort. A day at the beach or an afternoon at the park will do. Just anywhere you can be and not think about the bills, work, or whatever tensions you may have. It’s important to take time for yourself, so do it! You’ll feel better with a fresh outlook.
5. Treat yourself. Sign up for a yoga class at your local gym or community centre. The costs are nominal, and you’ll feel more relaxed after even just one session. A monthly massage or a spa treatment is also a great way to recharge. You’ll walk out feeling like a million dollar bowl of jelly. Even a manicure or pedicure will help you feel great.
Stress is sometimes unavoidable. But how we respond and what we do about it is up to us. Try some of these suggestions and see what you find helpful. Then put them into practice on a regular basis.
Looking for some Practical Tips to start eliminating the effects of stress and anxiety? Some of the positive steps you can commence TODAY
One step, a day at a time.
Choose one item from the checklist today.
Practise each positive step for at least a few days before moving on to another positive step. Don’t try to take too many steps at once.
These are written in first person, so that you can “own” them – that is really believe this is your work to do.
1. I will start today by saying “I can, I will, This Will Work”
2. I will start a Journal and make an entry each day – even if it is only a little entry. When I look back on this Journal I will be able to see how far I have travelled in overcoming my anxiety.
3. I will accept that not everything is perfect, nature created flowers and no two are the exact same. Being perfect is only an ideal and is not realistic.
4. This week I will take time to RELAX. Schedule or diarise a relaxation or me time and do just that, sit back and listen to some music, read a book. Just take some uninterrupted time for me.
5. I will practise saying “NO” to the things I do not really want to do. Perhaps I can say, “Thank you for asking and I cannot to that today” Think about how you will say this and practise in front of the mirror.
6.I will make an effort to stop my blocking behaviours: no negativity, no complaining and I will be pleasant for others to be around.
7. I will practise my breathing for when I may feel anxious, (take a deep breath in through the nose, out through the mouth, saying the word “relax” and thinking relaxing thoughts. By practising on a regular basis this will make it easier for me to remember when I am anxious.
8. Today I will rule a line down a piece of paper. On one side write a list of the things I am afraid will happen. On the other, write the calming things which are the opposite of my fear.
9. I will look positively rather than negatively at things so that I may enjoy the beauty in myself and in the life around me.
10. I will think about the type of music I like and listen to my music for at least 20 minutes a day – when I am working, when I am relaxing and, especially when I am feeling anxious and stressed. I may even sing along out loud.
11. I will take 10 – 30 minutes each day to practise self hypnosis or relaxation techniques.( how to do this – See HERE )
12. I will not just sit there – I will MOVE! I will go outside and enjoy Mother Nature, go for a short walk and take time to stop and smell the Roses.
13. I will Laugh a Little! Give myself permission to be a kid again –drawing, painting, jigsaw puzzles, play dough. Get in touch with the child inside me.
14. Today I will set REALISTIC goals for myself.
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