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What is your attitude to money?

Money, money, money.

It evokes a strong response in most of us. It even prompted Abba to write a song about it! Either it’s yes I want or need more, so send it my way, or it makes you cringe and recoil because you carry bad thoughts and feelings about it.

What do some of these words or comments make you feel?

“Money is the root of all evil” “I just won the lottery!” “He’s a dole bludger” “Did you know she earns $250,000 per year?”

If you had a response to any of those comments, then it’s likely you hold some thoughts and attitudes around money that you may be unaware of and that have been there for a long time.

If you had any response to any of those comments, then it’s likely you hold some thoughts and attitudes around money that you held for a long time.

Lots of these thoughts and attitudes come from your own early experiences and you learn a lot of your money attitudes from your own family. Maybe you have chosen to continue them, or perhaps consciously discarded them and replace them with something else. Regardless, everybody has emotional and psychological attitudes towards money.

It is important to acknowledge that money in itself is neither good nor bad. Money is simply a means of exchange. It is what you use to buy or sell goods or services, the things you need for our everyday lives and/or, a special treat.

What creates the emotional response is your attitude towards money? Money can create freedom, or imprison you depending on how you feel about it and what you then choose to do with it. Money attitudes can make you generous or a miser, trapped or enabled.

It is not my job to tell you what your attitude should be, but It is useful to know what your money attitudes are, because consciously or subconsciously they influence so many choices you make every day.

Some things that can help you work that out, include answering these questions:

What was the first message you remember receiving about money? (For example, if you wanted a new toy as a young child, were you told “we can’t afford that”?)

Where did your family place their priorities about how they spent money? Was it on possessions, experiences, education, or gambling in the hope of a better future?

What attitudes were expressed in your family about people who appear to have plenty of money? Did they praise them or put them down? What were their attitudes towards people who ran their own businesses; large companies; the role government and the management of money?

Answering these questions for yourself will give you a clearer view of how your money story influences your life now.

I want to share a new FREE resource with you from my friend and mentor, Denise Duffield-Thomas. It’s her very easy and practical Manifesting Formula.

Denise is an incredible money mindset mentor, AKA “The Lucky Bitch” whose best-selling books and courses have helped thousands of entrepreneurs step-up to create success and abundance.

Denise will share her process that will take you from “personal development junkie” into a manifesting MACHINE and money magnet.

She makes it easy, fun and totally chilled. There’s a free cheat sheet so you can play along.

You don’t need to be perfect, meditate five hours a day or chant naked under a full moon to manifest your ideal life!

But you DO need to CLEAR your mind of any blocks, get CRYSTAL clear on your goals, infuse every part of your day with positivity, take inspired ACTION and learn to RECEIVE (yes, it’s a learned process - women really struggle with that part).

 For your Manifesting Formula and Cheat Sheet, just sign up here (it’s free):

P.S. I’m a proud affiliate of Denise’s work. If you purchase something from her now or in the future, I may receive a commission but you can be assured that there will be no extra cost to you.


How to create My Time and not feel BAD!

Women in particular seem to be really good at meeting everybody else’s needs and ignoring their own. Who has never cancelled a doctor’s appointment, because someone else in their family is sick? Now that check up has to wait until you can find another time, but when will that be? That peaceful time you planned to read a book, work in the garden, have a coffee with a friend, suddenly disappears when somebody else has an urgent problem that only you can fix. Of course you say yes!

So you end up with a feeling of having no time for yourself, which can lead to resentment, frustration and never getting the important things (to you) done. What can you do?

1. Firstly acknowledge you can’t do everything. You need to focus on your priorities not everybody else’s and you need to acknowledge it’s okay to put yourself first.

2. It is not selfish to put yourself first. Imagine you are like a car. Would you drive your car and never put petrol in it? Do you expect your car to run for ever without being maintained? As humans we need to fill our car with petrol on a regular basis - this is your own self-care. We need our routine maintenance regularly - this is time out, a holiday or doing something entirely for you. By doing so, your car runs much better and you know you can rely on it. Put yourself first and you are much better able to meet others’ needs. As they say on the aeroplane, put your own mask on first before helping others.

3. You can’t please everyone so don’t even try. In trying to please everyone else you won’t please yourself and that’s where the frustration and resentment comes in.

4. Think of all the things that you say yes to when you really want to say no. What if you starting saying yes to your priorities, rather than others? Saying yes to having my time, saying yes to self-care, saying yes to a more balanced healthy life, saying yes to maintaining your own self-esteem and sanity.

5. There are lots of tactics that people use to get you to say yes to their priorities which rob you of your time. Learn about these and you will have a way to deal with it before it even happens.

· People use bullying, getting you to do what they want to do through being aggressive or threatening;

· Others whine and whinge and because you can’t stand it any longer you say yes to shut them up;

· Still others try to make you feel guilty because you are not meeting their needs and are not being a good friend, worker, mother or partner;

· And finally the sneakiest of all, is the person who complements you. They start by telling you how amazing you are at something and then ask you for help with the task. Falling for flattery and praise, then giving into their priorities, simply means you have given away your power.

6. Learn to say NO. Lots of people have trouble with this because of the above points. However practising makes it much easier. Try:

· Use a calm voice and be firm and clear. If you are emotional or upset, the other person will sense your weakness and try to exploit you.

· Be assertive in your body language. Stand up tall, make eye contact, and don’t fidget

· Never apologise. Saying I’m sorry too much makes you sound much less assertive. Try saying “thank you for asking and I am unable to help you on this occasion” using and rather than but is often easier.

· Don’t make excuses and don’t tell stories about why you can’t help them. You will get caught out every time!

· Offer the person some other choices. “I can’t help you today, however I have some time on Monday” or “ I know Bill is interested in that topic, have you asked him?”

Remember, only you claim your time and step into your own power! Enjoy your time and make the most of it.

Spring – A time to embrace change

It’s Spring! (Bear with me if you live in the northern hemisphere. The message will still be here for you.)


Most people love spring and all the new growth and regeneration that it signifies. Bulbs burst forth, flowers bloom, the grass is a vibrant green and trees get new leaves. The weather gets a little warmer; you can shed your coat and start to wear brighter colours. Everywhere around you are the visible signs of renewal and positivity.

As humans we are easily inspired by what we see in nature around us. Have you ever heard anyone say, “I hate a beautiful garden or countryside vista?” We rush into the garden, wanting to plant new things, enjoy the blossoming of flowers and trees and accept the good feelings that come with this visible change in the seasons.

I love spring, (well actually more correctly, I love to see the signs of the end of winter) and I am amongst the first to want to engage in activities for growth and renewal. I am always open to change, and I am energized by the prospect of new things. I love to plant new flowers and plants in the garden. I love a good workshop or training on a new area I am keen to learn about.

This keenness to focus on my new growth was no more evident than in my decision to focus fully on life coaching, running workshops and retreats in order to engage and help women in midlife in another way besides one to one counselling. There was plenty of room for growth, change and for the signs of blossoming by me making a tweak to my service to others.

However, I had been talking about doing this more for at least two years, and not much had changed! What really made the difference was when I publicly declared that I would no longer take any new counselling clients after 30 June 2016. This was commitment to myself, and a public announcement that I was ceasing one thing, in order to do another. Now my work planning, development and preparation, as well as the activities I am offering, are  focused on this new way of enabling others. People now can hear my message that I work with women in midlife to enable them to reinvent themselves, in order to grow and blossom in their lives.

keyThe key here is that I needed to be clear about what I was letting go of, removing from my life in order to move forward for new growth and change. While I kept accepting new counselling clients, I made sure that there was not enough room or time to build the new services through life coaching, workshops and retreats. I was self-sabotaging my best intentions.

Just as the gardener needs to do some preparatory work in autumn and winter to enable to garden to blossom in spring, by clearing, pruning, working the soil and then finally planting, I too needed to do some clearing and preparation before I could fully commit to my new work and service to others. I needed to let the old stuff go, to make room for the new.

Are you ready to grow and blossom in your life? Whilst it is important to look at what you can add into your life, it is also essential to know what you need to let go of, clear out or prune. Maybe, like me it is saying yes to too many people, taking on other people’s responsibilities, or overcommitting yourself. It is vital to know how you want your garden to look, before you plant, but you also need to know what dead, tired and unproductive growth needs to go.

Take a look, clear your mind, body and spirit to make room for new renewal in your life. Then create the vision for the future you want.

Want to be clear about your future and passions? Come to my Passion Test Workshop on 9 October 2016. Click here .

Hope you can share this journey of change with me


The Big Steps I Took to Reawaken and Renew Myself in Midlife

2015 was a year of significant change for me. The second half of 2014 and early 2015 were made up of significant challenges and stressful events. As a result I got to the point where I recognised the need to address this urgent situation and create significant change. As this time of the year is always a time for reflection, and planning for the future, I thought you might be interested in some of the things I did to create an opportunity to Reawaken and Review my life.

  1. I recognised that my life was not on track, and made a decision to make changes to get to where I wanted to be
  2. I took time for myself. The commitments of work, family, friendships, other social commitments, volunteer work etc became overwhelming for a short time. I decided to excuse myself from all but the essentials in order to focus on me for a short time. That included taking a short period of time off work.
  3. Following on from this, I learnt to say no. I recognised I did not need to give a reason but simply say that I was unavailable other people’s requests or demands.
  4. I spent time in places that renewed and restored me. I love the sea and find that it clears my head to spend time by the sea. So I went to the sea for some of the time. I took time out in peaceful locations in the hills as well.
  5. I spent time on journalling and reflecting, to enable me to step back and take a look at my life from a distance.
  6. I prioritised my self-care. That meant trying to exercise regularly, get enough sleep, take time for myself, and eat well.
  7. I enlisted the appropriate supports for my business. I identified that I wanted to do more coaching work with women in midlife to enable them to build the life they love. I knew I needed support to successfully transition into this field, so I enlisted the help of a coach to do so. It is so much easier to help others when someone else has your back.
  8. I acknowledged my strengths and skills, and I worked from them. I owned my abilities and shared them with others.
  9. I listened to what people told me they needed. I had worked in coaching in a very part-time way for some time but never felt I was really making the difference I wanted to make. It was not until I listened to my own voice and the feedback of my clients, that I identified that my real area of interest and ability. What I had to offer was to work with women in midlife who are in a state of transition.
  10. I recognise that nothing is static, and change is the only consistent in life. I learnt to be comfortable with change, and to be comfortable with being uncomfortable! Change creates discomfort, and if I was going to be right up there I had to feel the fear and do it anyway.
  11. I decided to put myself out there. How can I help anyone if I’m too scared to offer my services? This is a big one for me, and it meant I had to move beyond my comfort zone, become a little more public in my work, and offer tangible helpful services for women who could recognise that this is what they needed.
  12. I kept learning. I enrolled in courses online, joined Facebook groups with women who had similar interests to me, and read lots of articles and books.
  13. I ran a retreat for women in Torquay Victoria, and had first-hand evidence that plenty of women enjoy the face-to-face retreat model of engaging in life changing learning and coaching. There is a saying “we teach what we most need to learn”. Running this retreat showed me the way forward in my own midlife renewal.
  14. I am now launching a Midlife Reawakening and Renewal Mastermind group online. This has enabled me to maintain that personal and more intensive contact with people, while still being my services in a wider geographic area. Where people leave doesn’t matter because they can join me and their fellow masterminders online. More information on the mastermind here

If you would like to look at the steps you may need to take to reawaken and renew your life, join me for a complimentary 30 minute discovery session. Book your session here

SURVIVING TO THRIVING – Weekend Retreat for Women

Torquay, Victoria, November 18-20, 2016

“From Surviving to Thriving”

Since becoming a transformational life Coach, Andrea has wanted to create a retreat weekend by the sea would serve as the catalyst where women will meet other women who may have become dormant, and are seeking their purpose and direction to uncover the strategies, relationships and support they need. This enables them to rapidly identify the new lives they want and create the change they crave.

Surviving to Thriving Weekend 2016, is the culmination of that dream. It will bring together a small group of women in the middle of life, who are ready to let go of their limiting past and create change. It will be a two-day journey in optimising every aspect of their lives to create a fulfilling future. The weekend will commence on Friday evening of November 18 and conclude Sunday afternoon 20 November 2016.

Engage with your retreat leader, Andrea Fisher, who will transform the way you think about your own personal growth and development.

Andrea is an experienced and qualified life coach, counsellor and group facilitator and trainer. She loves to challenge women to move beyond their expectations to create new opportunities. Andrea will be assisted by Amanda Alexander ……..

Surviving to Thriving Retreat Weekend 2016 will be a fun, enjoyable and invaluable experience for a small group of women taking place over two full days in beautiful Torquay on the surf coast of Victoria, Australia.
Each day will be made up of engaging, reflective and hands on activities, with opportunities to relax and make new friends. The weekend is designed to take you on a step-by-step journey to help you identify how you would like your life to look, what is lacking, and how to overcome the things that hold you back in order to create and live the life you hope for.

Friday 18 November
6PM onwards: Registration and Settling in
7 PM: Welcome and Introductions. Group expectation and norms.
7.30PM: Dinner
Saturday 19 November
8 AM: Self-Service Breakfast
9AM: What are you REALLY looking for?
10.30AM: Coffee/Tea Break. Stretch your Legs
11AM: What Gets in the Way?
12Noon: Lunch
1PM: Free time for reflection, walking, enjoying the beach, or a coffee in one of the many cafes in the local area
3.30PM: Program Resumes. Clearing, cleansing and declutter
5.30PM: Break
6.30PM: Dinner
8PM: Short evening program
Sunday 20 November
8AM: Self-Service Breakfast
9AM: What Could Life Look Like?
10.30AM: Coffee/Tea Break
11AM: How Do I Get There?
12 Noon: Lunch
1PM: What Does the Future Look like for Me?
2.30PM: Where to from Here?
3.30PM: Depart
*** All times are indicative only and are subject to change according to the needs of the group participants.

The retreat will be held in a private relaxing home in central Torquay, fully equipped with several bedrooms, sea views and an outdoor spa for your relaxation. The beach and shops are about a 10-15 minute walk away.


The Retreat Venue
A bonus for the first six people to register! Simple bed and breakfast style accommodation will be included free of charge at the retreat venue, for the first six people to book. OR

Local Hotels or Airbnb
If you are not in the first 6 to book, you can organise your own accommodation at your expense at local hotels, motels or through booking agencies such as Airbnb. Contact Andrea for a discount code for Airbnb. There is a wide diversity of accommodation in Torquay OR

Day Attendee
If you live locally you may prefer to attend as a Day Attendee and sleep in your own bed! You will receive all sessions, resources and meals.


Time out in a beautiful part of the surf coast of Victoria will give you the chance to clear your head, enjoy the beach, and leave renewed in body mind and spirit having enjoyed time away from your usual demanding routine.

You will have time for reflection, and to let go of old unhelpful beliefs which no longer serve you well, leaving space for mental clarity.

You will develop a clear picture of how you would like your future to look, and can develop a practical strategy to put it into place.

You will meet new women who are on a similar journey of exploration and renewal, and gain support in knowing you are not alone.

You can enjoy simple healthy food, fun and laughter.

Finally, you can take valuable steps towards moving from simply surviving you really THRIVING in your life.


Earlybird Registration:
Includes, FREE B & B style accommodation for the first six people to register, all sessions, all retreat materials, all meals, and a bonus retreat goodies bag.

Normal registration:
Includes all sessions, all meals, all retreat materials and the bonus retreat goodies bag.
Day Attendee: Price is dependent on date of registration as above. Earlybird $397, and normal $457.
Includes all sessions, all meals, all retreat materials and the bonus retreat goodies bag.

Ready to secure your place?


How do I get there?
Torquay is 1.5 hours easy drive from Melbourne. There is a train service to Marshall, just past Geelong, and a bus service to Torquay. If you are flying in, there is a connecting bus service from Tullamarine to Geelong and the Surf Coast.

Where can I park at the retreat?
There is limited off street parking and plenty of on street parking.

Is there a dress code?
Where comfortable casual clothes and bring walking shoes if you would like to take advantage of the several beaches nearby of which to walk and enjoy the fresh air. As the wind can be fresh I suggest layers of clothing, and a light jacket can be useful.

What if I have special dietary needs?
The food at the retreat will be simple, largely self-serve food. Vegetarians will be catered for. If you have any other special dietary needs, please contact me before to discuss this.

What is the cancellation policy?
As this is a small intimate retreat, it is likely that the places will fill quickly. In order to gain your commitment I need to be firm about the cancellation policy, so that others do not miss out unnecessarily. If you cancel more than a month before you will get your full fee back, less a $50 administration fee. Less than a month’s notice of cancellation, you will lose 50%. Less than a week you will lose your full fee.

Do I need to share a room or bathroom?
As this is a private home not all the rooms are ensuite. There are some rooms with one bed and some with two. The first to book will be offered a room to themselves, and then the shared rooms will be offered. Everybody will share the two bathrooms. If you would like to share a room with a friend please advise me when booking.
If your own room with ensuite is essential, I suggest you book accommodation nearby.

Any other questions?
Please feel free to contact me to discuss any question you may have and to arrange  a payment plan.
Telephone 0409 180 880

Manifesting – Make It Happen

Just what is this Manifesting or Law of Attraction hype you and I have been seeing?
Well, it basically means thinking about what you really want and making it happen. It is a simple technique you can apply to bring success (however you define it) into your life – health, wealth, abundance, happiness, freedom which includes everyday important goals that you and I want to achieve.

For example, some time ago I was coaching a client who had decided to apply for an employment position she had really wanted for some years. My client knew she could do this job, but previously she had not been given the opportunity to prove this.

My client (Let’s call her Suzy) conducted all the research she could about this job, the employer and the statutory requirements which impacted on this position then, duly wrote her application letter and addressed the required key selection criteria and mailed it off.

All the time Suzy was preparing this, she kept repeating to herself “this is my job, this is my job”. During the waiting time, she completed further research on this job, all the while repeating “this is my job” then, she received an email informing me that her application was successful and had moved on to the interview stage.

Then, self doubt struck. She says she thought…. “do I really want this? Could I do this? Of course I could, I had gotten this far hadn’t I?” Then Suzy had to collect all her self doubts and throw them away. Positive thinking came to the forefront. She took a deep breath, squared her shoulders, held her head high and walked forward with confidence.”

So, again Suzy repeated her mantra: “this is my job, I can do this and do it well” was repeated over and over again. The interview went extremely well, so well that she got “her dream job”.

Can you see the processes Suzy followed to make it happen?

What I am telling you here, is that you need to set goals, start off with smaller ones at first if you are not sure, then as you achieve these, grow to bigger and better things.

All the hype tells us that you have to think long and hard about what you want and where you want to be and it will happen.

But, what will actually happen, will you still be wishing and hoping for what you wanted?

You – yes you, have to actually go out and do something about it. The adage “all good things come to those who wait” has to become: “all good things come to those who go out and make it happen.”

Don’t just sit back and rest, you could be sitting on that rock for a long time.

I actually journal the process to get there, plan it out. What do I want? To get there, work out the steps that you need to make to get yourself to the point where there is even the slightest possibility of it happening. Cross off each small step as you achieve it and give yourself a pat on the back for getting there.

Then, and this is the big one, once you are at that point, what do you need to do to actually make it happen – to bring it to fruition?

Again, put your goal on a piece of paper and plan the final stages of the journey to get there.

Surround yourself with like minded people who can buoy your efforts and keep sustaining the momentum. It is very easy to shrug your shoulders and give up when nothing happens straight away.

Don’t become disheartened, some people never even get to the stage of planning anything. They just sit and moan that nothing good ever happens in their life.

Manifesting is more about the process to get there, a sense of self achievement in crossing off the tiny steps. It may not always work straight away as there are other influences which may impact on this. Don’t be afraid to revisit your goal and adjust it somewhat, especially in the early days of trying out this technique.

Are you willing to give it a go?

My first hint is to clear your mind from distractions, sit quietly and think about what you would like to manifest.

Please let me know if you need any assistance with this. We can organise a coaching session via skype or phone. Or, just give it a try keeping in mind these positive thoughts here:

– Doubting Yourself
– Negative Thinking
– Fear of Failure
– Criticising Yourself and Others
– Negative Self Talk
– Procrastination
– Fear of Success
– People Pleasing

Reaching Beyond Adversity

Reaching Beyond Adversity
It is easy to believe that you can’t Reach Your Potential because of some adversity that may have happened in your life. You may have experienced a significant loss early in life such as the death of a loved one or major disruption through divorce of your parents. Many people will remember having to move house as a child and having to leave friends behind, and possibly the difficult time you had in re-establishing a friendship group in your new location.
I have worked with many clients who have been unfortunate enough to have been abused as children through physical, emotional or sexual abuse. This has obviously left significant scars and has resulted in the person concerned needing or choosing to seek individual supportive therapy to work through the impact of these issues. They will never know what life might have been like if they had not experienced this trauma or adversity early in life. Recent scientific research is showing that the development of the brain can be significantly impaired by early childhood trauma. But the good news is the neuro-plasticity of the brain allows repair work to be done through positive experiences and personal relationships later in life. It would be easy for the individual to give up and say that it is all too hard, and they will always be “like this”.
But this attitude means the challenging situation or adverse situation can become an excuse, not a reason for never quite making the highest standard you would love to set for yourself. It could be the excuse for never taking on a new experience where we do not have total confidence that we will succeed. It could prevent you from learning a new skill which could open a whole new set of doors in life.
Trying a new thing is uncomfortable by its very nature. A challenge is a challenge for that very reason. It takes us beyond our comfort zone and into the area of risk, where we may fail. But if we don’t experience some failure or lack of success, then we probably are not trying hard enough. There are very few new skills that everybody gets right the first time. Trying a new experience and not making it teaches valuable things. Discovering you hate a new experience is a valuable thing to learn. I vividly remember trying to learn to ski with spectacular lack of success. I tried a few more times, continuing to fail to master the skills required for me to even look mediocre on the slopes! Eventually I chose to pursue other interests but the experience was invaluable in helping me decide where my interests really lay and to understand why I thought I should try.
Most of us have watched young children start to take their first steps. None of them ever have complete success on the first attempt, beyond one, two or maybe three steps. The child invariably falls over and possibly cries. But parents don’t say “You can’t do that so don’t try again.” They pick the child up, encourage them to try again and continue to do so into the future. Eventually they learn to walk, and then to run! So it is with us as adults.
Marie Forleo reminds us, “Your past does not equal your potential”.
Marie runs an online course called B-School. The school has been reviewed in the past as teaching more about business than many postgraduate MBA courses in university. I have enrolled in the upcoming course because I have a vision to transform my business from working mainly in face-to-face counselling where I can only help one person at a time, to running a lot more workshops, conferences, retreats and online courses to be able to reach and work with lots more people. This requires a specific skill set, and my past attempts have not been spectacularly successful. In addition I have had my own personal experiences of adversity and trauma, which I sometimes used in days gone by as excuses to keep me stuck as a victim of my experience. Fortunately I grew beyond that and have now reached a much higher potential than I did prior to the adversities.

So in the interests of promoting a more positive future for both myself and you, I’m going public on my plans and my willingness to take a risk. I know I have the potential to do it and I am engaging with the best through Marie Forleo and Leonie Dawson to gain the skills and the support to get there. Going public in your intention is one of the first steps towards success.
I challenge you to do the same. So take a realistic step today towards the potential you KNOW you can reach. The first step doesn’t have to be big. You just need to take it.
Why don’t you report below in the comments what your first step is going to be and let us know how you get on? You can be guaranteed of support from me in your journey to Reach Your Potential.

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