The Searchers

Do you celebrate special birthdays? I recently had a round number birthday, and for the first time in 20 years, I decided to have a proper party. You know the kind – invitations, food, music, and entertainment at a place other than home where I would do all the work.

One of the most wonderful parts of my birthday was reading the cards I received and the messages they conveyed. I received a card from a relative I don’t see very often who lives far away and is a member of my former husband’s family. Despite all that, we get on well.

She wrote a beautiful card outlining why she valued our friendship and I will treasure it always. It also included this wonderful quote and I sought her permission to share it with you.

It is from a book from James Kavanaugh called, “There are Men Too Gentle to Live Among Wolves”.

I included the quote here:

“Some people do not have to search, they find their niche early in life and rest there, seemingly contented and resigned. They do not seem to ask much of life, sometimes they do not seem to take it seriously. At times I envy them, but I usually do not understand them. Seldom do they understand me.

 I am one of the searchers. There are, I believe millions of us. We are not unhappy, but neither are we really content. We continue to explore life, hoping to uncover its ultimate secret. We continue to explore ourselves, hoping to understand.

We like to walk long the beach, we are drawn by the ocean, taken by its power, its unceasing motion, its mastery and unspeakable beauty. We like forests and mountains, deserts and hidden rivers, and the lonely cities as well.

Our sadness is as much a part of our lives as is our laughter. To share our sadness with one we love is perhaps as great a joy as we can know – unless it be to share our laughter.

 We searchers are ambitious only for life itself, for everything beautiful it can provide. Most of all we want to love and be loved. We want to live in a relationship that will not impede our wanderings, not prevent our search, not lock us in prison walls; that will take us for what little we have to give. We do not want to prove ourselves to another or to compete for love.

 We are wanderers, dreamers and lovers, we are lonely men and women who dare ask of life everything good and beautiful. We are too gentle to live among wolves.”

As I read this quote, I realised she had recognised me. It describes ME.

For me, it is essential to keep searching, not from a restless never satisfied kind of way, but from an always wanting to learn and better myself motivation.

Who are you? A searcher, or content with how you are right now? I suspect if you have read this far, you are a searcher. Be proud of your search, because life is an adventure to be explored and discovered. You can only grow from the experience.