It is an unusual day when I don’t think about the things I have on my bucket list or how I could ramp things up in my life to do them better, more easily or with greater satisfaction. Only this morning, I have been thinking about how to get my knee working better to enable me to travel more easily to explore the world. After all, travel is my passion.
Quite often, we dismiss this thinking as day dreaming; but should we be so quick to dismiss these things that could bring joy and meaning to our lives?
Change is a constant in my life and rather than shy away from it, I try to embrace it.
Many times I have encouraged clients to reflect, dream and embrace the possibility of change and reinvention. Not for the sake of change, but to enhance their lives through fulfilment and participation.
Do you dream of travelling to New York or Brazil (or wherever is on YOUR bucket list)? Have you toyed with idea of walking away from that job you hate and writing a book? Maybe you’ve always wanted to paint, but someone laughed at your efforts twenty years ago and have denied yourself this pleasure ever since. You may even feel desperate to get out of a negative relationship that’s been holding you back for far too long.
Midlife; that time in your forties and fifties (or even beyond) is a time of change and transition. We so often hear about the “midlife crisis” which seems to herald loss and decline, but for many women it is not so much a crisis as a time of transition where roles and relationships change. There can be grief at the loss of what was and trepidation as to what will be.
This realization may be a gradual awakening that life could be more than what it currently is or it can be the result of a particular event, such as a separation, children leaving the family home or caring for an aging parent.
I reframe this transition phase as an opportunity for Midlife Reinvention, and I’ve been actively engaged in the process for almost 20 years! For me it was prompted by the unexpected and shattering end of my marriage – while painful, the process has been ultimately very positive and empowering. I would not be the woman I am today if I was still in that marriage.
Yes, transition and reinvention can be daunting, but also, ultimately, empowering and incredibly liberating. It can be much harder on your own, so if possible, having a support team around you cushions the ride and can spur you on to greater things. You don’t need to resign from your job, move to France or leave your marriage to reinvent yourself, but some action is required.
If you would like to embrace midlife with a group of like-minded women, then consider joining me from 5-10 June when I will be hosting a retreat in beautiful Bali which I have titled “Relax, Restore, Renew and Reinvent”.
In this serene, natural environment, there will be opportunities to re-evaluate your life choices, identify your passions, embrace your dreams and emerge with a new vision filled with excitement and possibility.
If you have been asking yourself, is this all there is, my answer is a resounding “NO!”
Find meaning in your life, and unlock the doors of possibility.
More information here: www.andreafisher.com.au/bali
In this serene, natural environment, there will be opportunities to re-evaluate your life choices, identify your passions and embrace your dreams.