Looking through some old files, I found this blog post that I wrote last year – but didn’t post.
However, the message is still relevant.
My 22-year old daughter is a student, and has just returned last year from overseas where she studied on exchange in Amsterdam. Those of you who know Amsterdam recognise that it is the capital of bicycles transport. She used a bike as her primary means of transport for several months.
On arrival, my daughter returned to using bicycle transport. Sadly, she got involved in an accident with a car a week after arriving. Fortunately, she only suffered minor injuries and was okay, but badly shaken.
After a week, my daughter made the decision to get back on her bike, because she doesn’t want to become scared of riding her bike. She is facing her fear and moving forward!
Do you have fears that keep you immobilised? Are there things that happened to you that keep you from being able to do all you want, in the ways you want?
Fear is an emotion that can rob you of choice, freedom and autonomy.
IF YOU LET IT.
Often the fear is firmly entrenched in your mind, enlarged by the stories and meanings you attach to it, stemming from the past, and not always based in the current reality. Over time, it can grow in your mind, and move away from the thing that actually set up the fear in the first place. Yet, it can be very powerful, and can leave you feeling powerless and unable to move.
When you are stuck in fear, anxiety increases and this in turn compounds the feeling of being unable to move or take action.
Marianne Williamson said in her book, A Return to Love (and was quoted by Nelson Mandela),
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."
If you have a fear or belief that stops you from living the life you want, then the way forward is to face the fear, and overcome the things that immobilise you. Recognising that most often, the fear is a story you have created for yourself means that you can rewrite the message or story for yourself, and allow space and freedom to move forward.
Life is for living, not hiding behind the fear of what MIGHT happen. Most often, you can choose what happens, and by facing your fears, you can take small steps to gain confidence and rebuild your skills and abilities.
My daughter got back on her bike, and chose a bike path away from the cars. It was a good safe choice, which built her confidence. Your choice can be a small step towards the outcome you want. Make it so small, that you actually can’t NOT do it.
What can you do to face and liberate your fears and get back on your bike?
Do you ever find that a past negative experience can make you fearful of ever trying that same thing again? Maybe it’s time to get back on your bike.