Welcome to 2017!
It’s great to know we all transitioned safely into the New Year, either with a bang, or slithering quietly, in a manner with a little less fanfare. No matter how you entered 2017, we are now fully into the year and possibly back into our responsibilities and routines.
So, are you doing anything different this year? Did you set resolutions? Lots of people say to me that they don’t set resolutions because they are a waste of time. By 5 January they have had another cigarette, stopped going to the gym (if they even started), or eat that food they swore never to pass their lips again!
I agree! Resolutions are a waste of breath. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t determine to do things differently. After all most of us want to become better versions of ourselves, but the challenge is knowing how to do it successfully. There are lots of theories: Danielle La Porte talks about setting goals in alignment with how you want to feel. Others mention SMART goals (specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time linked) while still others including me prioritise the 3 most important things for the day.
If you want to make change, and often associate big change with the New Year, then there are a few key steps:
1. Recognise that you want change because you are not satisfied with how things are now and that you can be a better version of yourself.
2. Identify your big WHY. Why do you want to make change? Do you want to give up smoking so that you will be around to enjoy your grandchildren? Lose 10 kilos so you have more energy to complete that bushwalk you have always wanted to do? Change for change’s sake rarely lasts. Link it to an important reason and you are less likely to fall by the wayside as you have a strong motivator.
3. How do you want to feel? Identify the feeling you want to achieve and link your goal to that. Achieving your goal becomes the means of creating the feeling. (Danielle La Porte)
4. Make sure your goals are in alignment with your values. If somethings is not in line with what you values, or is in contradiction with your values – you are guaranteed to sabotage it!
5. Make a plan. Work out HOW you will go about making the change. Thinking you will do it and taking the steps are 2 very different things. Baby steps are usually more successful – regular consistent action, just like the hare and the tortoise story normally gets you to where you want to be.
6. Enlist a buddy. Mutual support works wonders! Accountability is fantastic! Doing things alone is always harder than with the support and encouragement of another person.
7. If you have a backwards slip, don’t give up! Up and downward slides are part of the deal and totally normal. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and keep going. When you have made some progress, look back and see how far you have come – and congratulate yourself. Positive reinforcement is vital.
If you want to make change, then try these steps today to move closer to meaningful change that is likely to last.
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